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Spreading a little Christmas joy!

So how are you feeling about Christmas? Excited or a little bit stressed and overwhelmed with everything you’ve got to do?

This year, I’m excited! Excited about spending time with family and friends but also very happy to be taking more than 2 weeks off for a well earned break. I’m looking forward to long walks, log fires and reading, all accompanied by good food and fine wine.

It’s been an amazing year but also somewhat busy!

I’ll let you into a little secret: I’ve recently banned the word busy from my vocabulary and it’s amazing how that has created more space in my life. No one else is allowed to use it either, but perhaps I’ll tell you more about that in another newsletter next year 😉

I’ve had some amazing achievements this year especially in my business.

I’ve reached so many people and supported them in transforming their lives.

I’ve trained more than 100 coaches on how to get their own practices up and running

Finally, I’ve run numerous workshops spreading the wonders of Mindfulness!

Celebrating our successes isn’t something many of us find easy. I certainly don’t find it easy, but I’m getting better at it, which is why I’m sharing it here!

I’m also excited about 2018 as I get ready to launch The Mindfulness Gap.

This will make Mindfulness more accessible to you all. There will be an E-book in the New Year and as well as an online training programme with group support later on. I can’t wait to share it with you all….So watch this space.

But for now it’s time for a rest… so I’ll see you next year with some more of my simple tips and tools to keep you going through the New Year.

Here are 3 Tips to Remember whether you’re feeling excited or overwhelmed

  1. Reflection. Spend a little time reflecting on this past year. What have you achieved? Also acknowledge the not so good times but recognise what you’ve learned from them.
  2. Celebrate. Mark all those successes in some way. Don’t dismiss them, be proud of what you’ve accomplished. You deserve to recognise and reward yourself for them. Treat yourself to that thing you’ve wanted for a while, share it with someone who will be thrilled for you or toast yourself quietly with a glass of bubbles.
  3. Visualise. Spend some time looking at what you’d like to achieve for 2018. Be bold, dream bigger and know that you can have anything you want. All you have to do is believe that it’s a possibility. Success isn’t reserved for the few, it’s for everyone to taste, you’ve just got to be bold and get out there to claim it!

Perhaps 2018 might just be your most exciting year yet!

Remember: Start small and build from there.

Happy Christmas everyone

Much love,

Natasha x

P.S. Have fun over the festive season!

P.P.S. As a present to you I’m offering a 15% discount to the 1st 2 lucky people who sign up to A Mindfulness Gap Programme before 21st December. Reply to this email with your mobile number to apply as places will be strictly limited to start in January. natasha@mindbodysoulenergy.co.uk

3 things to try if you’re not loving what you do

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Do you love what you do?  Do you wake up in the morning excited to get going and are buzzing after a great day?

Or do you feel exhausted at the thought of all that you’ve got to do? Does everything feel like a slog? Perhaps you feel like you’ve got to get your head down and there’s just no time to have any fun! 

I trained 28 people over 2 days last week and I loved every minute of it!

Don’t get me wrong I had to overcome my own fears at training such a big group, which I’d never done before. 

And yes I was pretty exhausted at the end of the 2 days. 

But I was also buzzing at the end of it.  

And it really made me realise how much I love what I do. Seeing how people can do things differently and step into change. 

Just 18 months ago I co-hosted my first ever 2 hour workshop for only 6 people. I’d never done anything like that before. 

That’s how it started: saying yes to something I’d never done before. Getting out of my comfort zone and doing something that I had no skills or experience doing. 

I woke up on the first day of this latest training and set the intention that we would have fun, despite being such a big group. 

And I did have fun. There was energy in the room, there was creativity and there was excitement to learn new skills and use these skills to move forward. 

Here are 3 things to try if you don’t quite love what you do. (And one of them isn’t to leave your job and walk away!)

  1. Say yes to something new. What could you say yes to today that you’ve never done before? What might you be really good at, that you haven’t even contemplated yet
  2. Don’t let fear stop you. There are probably a few things that you haven’t got the skills for. Yet. If an opportunity comes up, you have nothing to lose by giving it a try.
  3. Set an intention. These are different to goals. What’s missing from your work right now? Is it fun, spontaneity, collaboration, support? Go to work today and intend that it will show up in one form or another. But be sure notice it when it does 😉

Love what you do and do what you love. 

Remember:  Start small and build from there. 

Much love,

Natasha x

P.S. What 1 thing would change everything about what you do? It might be that this one thing shifts everything for you and you start to love what you do again! Give it a go, what have you got to lose?

P.P.S Reply by email – I’d love to hear how you are getting on, or let me know if you’re struggling and need a little inspiration to make a start!? natasha@mindbodysoulenergy.co.uk

 

Do you have certain goals and ambitions but haven’t quite managed to achieve them yet? Do you get stuck in wondering how on earth you will get there so you never quite get started?

Perhaps you need to know every step in the journey before you’ll take any action at all?

That’s how we get stuck exactly where we are, with no idea how to move forward.

What if I said there are infinite ways you can achieve any goal?
The trouble is, you’re not always able to see them straight away.

We can waste precious energy and time trying to work out every single step along the way. 

But we can’t possibly know what will present itself after we’ve taken the first step and every step after that. Each step can take us in a slightly different direction that we hadn’t even thought of yet. 

Taking one small step forward will create the momentum you need to push you further.

Ask yourself, ”Why do I want to get there?”, rather than asking yourself, “How will I get there?”

This is a much more powerful question and when we understand why we want it, we become far more motivated to achieve it. 

So what can you do? Firstly, get clear about these 3 things:

  1. Why you want it. If you don’t really want something or you’re not clear on why you want it, then you’ll have no motivation to achieve it. Ask yourself if your goal excites you?
  2. What you will gain. Notice I said ‘you’. This is not about doing something to please someone else. Is this goal really yours? Or is someone else’s?
  3. What you’re willing to let go of in order to achieve your goal. When we shift into something new we will always lose a little bit of what we’ve left behind. But, will the rewards be greater? 

Then take just one step. Any step.  And be willing to take a ‘wrong’ step. But do take it!

Yes, there’s a risk involved. 
But isn’t it a greater risk not to start at all? 

After all, as Albert Einstein said, “the definition of madness is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results.”

That includes taking no action at all. Over and over again. 

If what you’re currently doing isn’t getting you closer to your current goal, then isn’t it worth taking that risk and trying a new approach?  

Remember:  Start small and build from there. 

Much love,

Natasha x

P.S. What do you truly want but are not moving any closer to? Do something differently. You’ll get a different result. I promise. 

P.P.S Reach out by email – I’d love to hear how you are getting on, or let me know if you’re struggling and need a little inspiration to make a start!  natasha@mindbodysoulenergy.co.uk

 

Are you facing constant challenges at the moment? Does everything feel like an uphill struggle? Or are you completely overwhelmed and can’t make a decision one way or the other?

When we are faced with challenges and problems we can sometimes stay stuck in that challenge or problem, without seeing a possible way out to change it.

But there’s always a solution hiding within.
So, where is that solution? Why is it being so elusive?!

It’s likely we are ignoring it and therefore not noticing what’s right in front of us. Or perhaps we think it’s up to someone else to fix it.

When we take a step back, we can create a space to reflect and ask ourselves different questions. That way we can gain a bit of clarity and start to explore ways of moving beyond the current situation and towards a more positive outcome.

These are 3 things I always ask myself when I’m feeling challenged:

1. What can I learn from this right now? It might be that you explore when this challenge started so you recognise the sign next time it come around and you can find a different way to approach it. Or perhaps you have gained some new skills along the way that means you’ll appreciate the experience further down the line.

2. What are the opportunities? What positive outcome might come of this? Maybe this challenge actually brings you closer towards something you do want. When one door closes, another always opens.

3. What am I missing? When we are focused on the problem or the challenge that’s all we can see. What is it you’re not seeing? Take a step back from where you’re standing. What are you not seeing, recognising or understanding? What possible solution exists to move you forward? Trust yourself that you have the resources to turn it around.

Get your journal out, or take a notepad and start answering these questions for yourself. Or better yet ask a friend to help you out and start asking you these questions to help you see some solutions. Perhaps do it over a glass of wine…

Remember their role is to ask you questions, not to find the solutions for you 🙂

Remember: Start small and build from there.

Much love,
Natasha x

P.S. What one problem or challenge are you faced with right now? How can you start to look at this from a different perspective? Take a step back from it and what do you see going on?

P.P.S Reply by email – I’d love to hear how you are getting on, or let me know if you’re struggling and need a little inspiration to make a start!
natasha@mindbodysoulenergy.co.uk

 

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Are you avoiding something at the moment? Are you fooling yourself about it and hoping the problem might go away? Perhaps it feels easier when you’re burying your head in the sand a little?

We are all guilty of ignoring things we don’t want to face and we can become really good at fooling ourselves. I know I have!

 By seeing things as you want to see them it helps you to make sense of what’s going on. 

But it’s not always helpful. In fact it rarely ever is!  You don’t see things as they really are and you miss things that are right in front of you.

It usually festers and becomes a much bigger issue than if you’d addressed it to start with. 

So why do we do it?!?

Wouldn’t you rather deal with things so you can move on?

I now try to look at things differently and be curious about what I might not be seeing, what I’m ignoring or what I’m fooling myself about. I don’t always get it right, but I’m better at spotting it before it becomes a problem in my life.

So, try my 4 simple tips to stop avoiding something so you can move on quicker:

  1. Time.  Give yourself 10 minutes to explore what you’re fooling yourself about and perhaps you can see there’s an alternative way out and it’s not so scary after all 🙂
  2. Curiosity.  What might you be ignoring? Start to become aware of what you are fooling yourself about.Acknowledge it for a moment and give it a bit of attention. How you feel about will start to change… 
  3. Look at it with a fresh pair of eyes. What are you missing or haven’t you noticed before? Is there something else going on that might offer a solution.
  4. Let go. What assumptions are you making? Ask different questions so you gain more clarity about what might actually be happening.

Remember:  Start small and build from there. 

Much love,

Natasha x

P.S.  What one thing are you ignoring right now? By doing something different you will start to find a solution that works for you. Give it a go, what have you got to lose?

P.P.S I’d love to hear how you are getting on, or let me know if you’re struggling and need a little inspiration to make a start!

Reach me at natasha@mindbodysoulenergy.co.uk

 

Do you often give yourself a hard time when you’re not feeling great? Do you tell yourself that you shouldn’t be feeling that way? Do you try to ignore how you’re feeling and put on a brave face to those around you? Do you perhaps take it out on someone who doesn’t really deserve it? 

Or, do you feel bad that you are feeling bad?

You’re not alone! I sometimes wake up with a sense of dread at facing my to do list! I feel like I’m racing against the clock and it’s overwhelming. I feel like I don’t always have the energy to face the day and it doesn’t feel good.

When negative emotions shows up, the tendency is to ignore how you are feeling, or to sweep it under the carpet and hope that it might go away. Ignoring how you are feeling generally gives it fuel to continue and make you feel worse. 

So, try these 3 steps and give yourself a break for a few minutes when any negative feelings keep showing up and trying to ruin your day:

  1. Acknowledge – notice exactly how you’re feeling right now. Admit to yourself that you are feeling low and don’t have your usual energy and enthusiasm. 
  2. Accept – it’s ok to feel a bit rubbish. No one has limitless energy and there are times when things are tough. Perhaps there’s something going on and you need time to work though the challenge. 
  3. Allow – give yourself permission to have a bad day. Nothing is permanent and your feelings and emotions are always changing. Know it will pass. Maybe not right now, but perhaps later today or tomorrow. 

We give ourselves a hard time when we’re not feeling great. We are often our own worst critic. 

Notice the internal mind chatter. Are you giving yourself a hard time? Can you be kinder to yourself? After all, kindness starts within :). 

Remember: start small, and build from there. 

 

Are you someone who is always hopeful? Are you hopeful that everything will work out just fine?  Are you hopeful that you’ll meet the perfect partner, or that the perfect job will come your way? How about hoping that someone else will change so that things get a bit less stressful? Or are you hopeful that things will just somehow work out and resolve themselves?

Or are you someone who trusts? Do you have a quiet belief deep down that things are working out perfectly, and so you keep moving yourself towards what you want? Do you know that everything will work out for the best no matter what the current situation?

There is a difference between hope and trust. I often discuss this with my clients, and this is how I define the difference…

Hope, for me, is when we become attached to an outcome that we believe will make us happy. We quietly hope that something somewhere will happen, but we don’t quite believe that things are fully in our control. We continue to hope that some external event(s) will occur and only then will we be able to relax and know that everything will be ok. But if it doesn’t happen we are disappointed and wonder what we did wrong or what we did to deserve disappointment. 

Trust, on the other hand, is an acknowledgement that whatever the outcome, everything will work out perfectly even if we can’t see it right now. In a space of trust we are able to acknowledge our current situation without judgement or worry.  We somehow find ways to improve things and start doing something differently. We know we are fully in control and we keep moving towards our goals or ambitions. We don’t give up, no matter what. We have complete trust in ourselves and that we will get there. 

I recognise that there are some things in my life I just know will happen and there are other things that I hope will happen. 

Guess which things actually happen? When I know and believe something is going to happen, everything I do takes me closer to my goal. I take different actions, I start to do things differently and I become unstoppable!

After all, how can we expect different results by doing the same things over and over?

So what can we do to trust more? Recognising where we are hopeful is the first step.

Ask yourself:

  • What am I hoping for right now? 
  • Where do I keep seeing the same results showing up time and time again?
  • What am I doing right now that might be keeping me stuck?
  • What one (small) thing can I change about the way I am doing things? 

As you start to do things differently you will also start to see different results. As you move forward you will trust more that it will happen, and you will get excited as you quickly see things changing.

Remember Start small. Recognising one thing in our life where we are not achieving the things we hope for is the first step to making a change. How much do you want that outcome? What are you no longer prepared to put up with? What are you willing to change so that you begin to trust it will absolutely happen?

 

The #1 lesson I’ve learnt about FEAR

Fear isn’t always a bad thing. It can keep us safe and help us avoid pain. But fear can also be a bit sneaky. Do you ever feel that fear holds you back?

Does it creep up on you and stop you in your tracks?
Does fear stop you from doing something?
Does it keep you stuck in the same place?
Does it stop you from being successful – at work, in relationships, at communicating your needs?

We can use fear to our advantage, and when we learn how to deal with it we can keep moving forward. A couple of weeks ago, fear snuck up on me big time! I went downhill mountain biking and it pushed me further than I bargained for. I’m a good mountain biker but I wasn’t prepared for the difficult tracks that lay ahead. I came off the bike in the first 5 minutes, and questioned my ability to keep going. Luckily, I was with someone who encouraged me. But I was faced with a dilemma. I could convince myself that I can’t do it and quit. Or I could face the fear and get back on the bike.

But I learnt something about my fear. The longer I debated this decision, the harder making the decision became. My fear grew from not knowing what to expect. Did I have the skills needed to do this? How much would I hurt myself if I fell again? Was I physically strong enough?

What amazed me was how uncomfortable my mind got with the uncertainty of what was going to happen.

It took real determination to push through the fear, but I got back on the bike and I let go of the fear (a little!). What I soon realised was that my focus and attention had to be in the immediate moment. I really had put Mindfulness to the test! I couldn’t afford to let my mind wonder off – even for a split second. Everything outside that very moment had to melt away.

Fear had no place in that moment either. I had to trust in myself (and the bike) and let go.

There was nothing to do except be in the moment.

So, although I was physically exhausted (and a bit battered!), I gave my mind a complete rest. And I had fun. I got away from the ‘busy’. And I spent a weekend in every moment. Moment to moment.

Fear taught me a lesson: If we allow fear to stop us from doing something then we will always stay in exactly the same place. But once we push through the fear and experience the uncertainty, it’s so much easier the second time around.

Here are some tips to address sneaky fear:

– Try getting comfortable with being uncomfortable – Celebrate your fear – yes, really! Feeling fear means we are getting closer to where we want to be

– Being open to crossing that panic point, knowing that our confidence and ability increases

Push through the fear and the rewards will be greater than you can imagine! My reward was that I felt exhilarated, truly alive, and I felt free on the edge of mountain tops, blown away by the stunning scenery.

Remember: This fear is not based on anything real or anything that is actually going to happen right in this moment that will harm us.

Typically, fear will show up in 1 of 3 ways: Worry, anxiety, or outright panic; Excuse making, avoiding or procrastinating; Resistance to change and staying stuck.

How does fear show up the most for you?

So, your turn! What are you afraid of? Be brave and leave me a comment below!

 

How to step back when others trigger us

Are someone else’s actions affecting you this week? It might be with your partner, your sibling, a colleague at work, or one of your kids? Are you taking it personally and blaming yourself? Or do feel you’ve done something wrong and are giving yourself a hard time about it? Are you quick to react without giving yourself the time to step back and see what else might be going on?
 
If you stop for a moment to look at the situation, can you see the bigger picture? When we stop, we give ourselves an opportunity to see a different perspective, and then hopefully take a different course of action to what we usually do.
 
How do you usually respond to someone? Do you respond in anger? Do you give people the silent treatment? Do you feel guilty? Do you get anxious or stressed? Do you blame yourself? Do you want to fix it? Or do you bury your head and hope it’ll all go away?
 
So, how can we move beyond this and accept someone’s actions and see that it’s not entirely our own responsibility and that the other person also has to take some of the responsibility for the situation.

  • Firstly, it’s important to be able to take a step back and ask yourself, “What is really going on in this situation? What’s going on for me and what’s going on for the other person?”  
  • Secondly, recognise how we respond is entirely our own choice. Always. 
  • Thirdly, be sure to understand what it is you need in the moment. We can then ask the other person what they may need. 
  • Fourthly, know that you’ve done your best and that you will be ok, even if the other person can’t meet you half way. 

When we jump into a situation out of fear, hurt or rejection, we often do this to satisfy our own needs. Not the needs of the other person involved. You may do it to make yourself feel better.  You might even recognise that you’ve always responded in the same way. You might be trying to justify why you’ve done something. You might be apologising profusely for something you weren’t even aware that you did, or perhaps responding with your own silence.

With practice of the first step, we get better at making different choices for ourselves and thereby changing the outcome of the things we seem to experience over and over again.

I know I’ve got better at noticing when I keep finding myself in similar situations! It’s annoying and really frustrating!! But I’m quicker at recognising which part is my own responsibility and which part is someone else. This empowers me and helps me to make better and better choices in my life.
 
Remember: start small, and build from there. 
Perhaps note down in a notebook the experiences that you have where you feel things could have gone differently. Hindsight is a wonderful thing – what might you have done differently? How might you do that next time?

Perhaps change one different thing each day this week. The list above are just some ideas; has something else just popped into your head that you could change? Do that!

 

Small Steps Can Lead to Big Changes

Is your life in flow at the moment, or do you feel like something needs to change? Is something standing in your way and stopping you from moving forward?

I have often got to a stage where I begin to feel stuck. I just don’t know which direction to turn, and things are not quite flowing anymore. There are other times when things seem to be going smoothly and everything is moving in the right direction. But there are other times when things feel a bit bumpy and it’s a bit of a rough ride! It feels less than comfortable. I feel frustrated and don’t know quite how to change the situation I’m in.

When life flows, that’s when we feel the most alive, connected and motivated. 

Do you feel like life has stood still a little and you’re not sure what direction to take next? Do you feel you need to shake things up a little in order to get life moving again? But you have no idea where to start?

It doesn’t always have to be difficult. Taking a small step towards doing something differently can significantly change things. Perhaps we realise that the things we’ve been doing repetitively until now are not doing us any good. Or the person that brings us down is no longer someone we want to spend so much time with.  Or the job we do day in, day out, gives us no joy what so ever.

Well the good news is that we don’t have to move to a different country, ditch our friends, or walk away from the job that gives us stability! Though we can do all of these things, we can also take smaller steps towards creating a more positive change in our lives, leaving us feeling more content, connected and heading in a different direction.

I’m sure you are asking what these things are! Well, here are a few tips but they are by no means exhaustive. We are all unique, and what works well for one person will not work very well for another. So the trick here is to try a couple and see what works, or what elements of it work for us.

Here are a few things to try out each day this week.
Pick one and see which one feels good.
– Change your morning route to work
– Do a different form of exercise
– Book a day off work
– Change the position of something at home, a coffee table or an ornament
– Wear something you haven’t worn in ages
– Cook something you’ve never cooked before
– Spend time with someone who you know will make you feel good
– Watch an uplifting or inspiring programme
– Change something about your weekend routine, perhaps try something new
– Go to a different cafe to buy your coffee or lunch
– Do something that challenges you just a little
– Learn something new today

What else might you change about your daily routine?

Over time we create our own unique set of tools that help us when life throws a curve ball. With practice we get better at catching them and putting them down gently rather than allowing them to knock us off our feet.

I know I’ve got better at noticing when I’m feeling a bit stuck. I have a few great tools which I know work really well for me, and each time I can create that change just a little bit quicker!

Remember: start small, and build from there.
Perhaps change one different thing each day this week. The list above are just some ideas.  Has something else just popped into your head that you could change? Do that!

 

How to Slow Down and Get More Done!

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Do you sometimes arrive somewhere, and wonder ‘How on earth did I get here?’
I know I do and hardly remember anything at all about the journey. I was either distracted by what I had to do later, or I was lost in something I was doing earlier. We can sometimes go through life in this way: a little bit distracted or lost and wondering how we got to where we are today.

But when we stop, even just for a moment to notice our surroundings we create a little bit of space. In that space, things appear to slow down a little and we can see a little bit clearer. We start to recognise what might actually be going on in that very moment. We show up engaged and ready.

But how do I slow down, you ask? You are busy. You are really busy. You’re juggling many things: work, family, children and life in general. Surely there’s no time to slow down!?

What if I said that slowing down doesn’t mean you get less done, it can actually mean you get MORE done!

By introducing one (or more) of these 3 easy and simple tips to your daily routine, you will start to feel calmer and more relaxed in a matter of minutes. You will feel more in control and on top of things. You can spend as little as 2-3 minutes on each.

1. Take a few deep breaths
How deeply do you breathe? My guess is not very deeply at all. Mostly we breathe using only the top part of our lungs, which means that we rarely exchange the stale, older air in the bottom parts. Breathing properly improves our health, reduces stress and helps our organs to function optimally. This really is a simple way to feel better very quickly!

Take a few deep breaths. Is it easier to breathe in or out? Can you feel your body relaxing with each cycle? What else do you notice?

2. Write a daily gratitude list
What are you grateful for? Often it’s the really small things we are most grateful for – a kind word, the smell of coffee, birds singing. In becoming aware of the small things we realise how many great things that happen every single day!

Write down 3 things that you are grateful for each day for the next 7 days. What especially brought a smile to your face?

3. Listen and give your full attention
How often do you actually feel heard? In conversations with friends and colleagues, we sometimes only listen partly. We can quickly become distracted by our own thoughts, and we quickly claim we know exactly what they mean.  Sound familiar?

Next time you are having a chat with someone, notice how much you actually hear. Give them your full attention and be curious. Ask questions, rather than sharing your own thoughts and feelings about the situation. How differently does that person respond when you really hear them?

Remember: start small, and build from there. There’s no rush!
You only need to spend 2-3 minutes on each.

3 tips for when you are constantly overthinking

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Do you find yourself always overthinking? Does your mind never seem to stop or rest? Are you constantly thinking about all the things you’ve got to do? Or are you going over and over something that has already happened and that you cannot change?

When my clients explain to me all the different directions their minds go, what I hear often is “I must sound crazy!”

What I tell each of them is that they are not alone. We all have the inner dialogue and constant mind chatter. But what I have realised is that mostly the conversation in our heads is critical and rarely positive.

What we can do though, is learn to quieten and calm our internal voice so that we don’t get so caught up or lost in it.

So how do we start to be kinder to ourselves? I’m sure we could all do with a bit of that!

Try these 3 tips to soften the internal chatter, feel calmer and less anxious but also to be more aware of what’s going on in the present moment.

1. Become aware of the internal chatter. The first thing is to stop for a moment and become aware of the dialogue we are telling ourselves. Notice if it’s kind or critical. By making ourselves aware of the chatter we can start to slow it down.

2. Be Kinder to yourself. Start by giving yourself a few words of encouragement. Perhaps tell yourself you’ll get through this challenging time, that you’ll feel differently tomorrow, or that you are allowed to feel upset but it will pass. Remember nothing is permanent.

3. It’s ok to make mistakes. We all get it a little wrong sometimes. Perhaps we could have done something differently but by recognising this we give ourselves the opportunity to do it differently next time and learn from past experiences.

Remember: Start small, there’s no hurry….Take a break from the constant mind chatter for just one minute today.

Much love,

Natasha x

P.S. Which of these 3 tips helped you become more aware of what’s going on around you right here right now? I’d love to hear how you are getting on…… Reply to this email if you’re struggling and need a little inspiration to make a start! Or email me Natasha@MindBodySoulEnergy.co.uk

Are you, like most of us, attached to your phone? Do you constantly check your messages even when you don’t need to? Are you constantly distracted by notifications for FaceBook, emails, texts, WhatsApp, FaceBook messenger, Skype? Do you grab for your phone in a restaurant or cafe when the other person momentarily leaves you on your own?

Sometimes there’s barely a minute that goes by without our phones distracting us.

Recently, I started getting completely overwhelmed with receiving messages via loads of different apps. If I didn’t have time to respond straight away I’d then spend ages trying to find the message they’d sent me because I couldn’t remember how they’d contacted me! It was really frustrating and I realised how much time I was wasting!

Now, I allocated time to respond to certain messages and work my way through them slowly. It’s made my life so much easier. And less stressful, because I don’t feel I need to respond immediately!

Also, were you aware that every time you are distracted from what you are doing, it can take you up to 15 minutes to get back into the flow of what you were doing? Yes 15 minutes! So the next time your phone vibrates with an alert, and your attention is drawn away from what you are doing, you just lost yourself some very precious minutes.

Can you imagine what you might get done now you know this?! We can stop being constantly pulled in lots of directions with these distractions, we can feel calmer, and we can feel more in control and ultimately be more productive. We become more in tune with what we are doing and allow ourselves to be more in the present moment.

Here are 4 more tips to help:

1. Turn off all your notifications. Go into each of your apps and turn off all the notifications. Or at least turn off the sound and vibrate, so that you’re attention is not drawn to your phone every time you get one.

2. Allocate time to turn off your phone completely. Next time you have a something important to get done, or have a deadline to meet turn off your phone completely or pop it onto airplane mode for 30 minutes. Close emails on your laptop too. You can get back to people when you are done. This way your task will get your full attention and you’ll get it done much quicker, I promise!

3. Be comfortable in moments when you are on your own. We are no longer comfortable to sit on our own for short periods. Be that on the bus, walking or in a cafe. Next time you’re in this situation, avoid the phone for 5 minutes, and know that you’re ok in your own company for a short time. Notice what’s going on around you and what you might be missing had you been distracted by technology.

4. Don’t sleep with your phone! When you go to bed leave the phone in another room. The temptation to check it is great, even when you wake momentarily in the night to check the time. Even if you think the vibration doesn’t wake you up it does interrupt the quality of your sleep. Treat yourself to an alarm clock 🙂

Try one of these out today, and see if you get more done, or sleep better! I’m curious to know. It’s got to be worth a try, hasn’t it?

Remember: Start small… you don’t have to turn your phone off for the whole day! If 30 minutes seems too much, just try out 10 minutes where you are completely focused on the task in hand.

Much love
Natasha x

P.S. When or how do you get most distracted? If you’re not easily distracted by your phone, then what does distract you? Be open to noticing when your focus is being pulled in a different direction, and see how you can avoid it the next time. I’d love to hear how you are getting on…… Drop me an email or let me know if you’re struggling and need a little inspiration to make a start! Natasha@MindBodySoulEnergy.co.uk

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Wonderful Reiki and healing benefits

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As a Reiki Master I love receiving Reiki. Not only is it an important part of my Reiki journey to deepen my connection with the universal energies and increase my own vibration, but it also reminds me how I experience every session differently. As I’ve mentioned in some of my other posts, Reiki energies do not stop working as soon as the treatment ends, they stay with us for days or sometimes weeks afterwards. So it’s always fascinating for me to spend some time reflecting on what’s been going on for me a week or so after a treatment.

So, here are a few of the wonderful benefits I’ve received from other practitioners. Thank you! Would you like to share some of your own experiences and benefits? I’d love to hear from you.

1. Increased energy

I sometimes bound out of a session, bright eyed and busy tailed! I feel that something has shifted in me straight away and given me the space to move more freely and effortlessly. There’s a spring in my step and everything outside seems somehow brighter and more alive. It’s almost as though my vision was slightly blurry beforehand. My senses are heightened and I’m more aware of everything going on around me.

Move through your days feeling truly alive.

2. Slowing down

In a busy world, life seems to move at an ever increasing pace. This fast pace can be tiring and often exhausting. Sometimes after a session you might feel like you need to rest. This is Reiki’s gentle way of saying “Please stop and slow down. It’s ok to rest.” This doesn’t always feel natural to me. But i also recognise that when I reach that state of balance between doing and being, I am calmer, more centred and I actually achieve more! That’s why I always listen when the energies encourage me to slow down. It’s as though the healing can then take place on a much deeper level. Trust that what needs to be done will still get done.

Relish moving at a slightly slower pace

3. Healing for our highest good.

Reiki works with intention. It’s often helpful to spend a little time before a session contemplating what you’d like from the session. Would you like to gain some clarity, let go of something, resolve a conflict, or just have some quiet relaxation? I always like to give my clients a little time for this before we begin with the Reiki. It helps you arrive into the space, start to connect with how you are feeling and allow the mind to quieten. When we set an intention, the universe listens and energy starts to organise so that outcome can materialise.

But watch out, sometimes the universe has other ideas of what is best for you! What we think we need is not always what we need in that moment! Reiki energies always know what needs to happen in your highest interest. And this can sometimes be the complete opposite to what you expected or intended. It’s almost like the energies are playing, but it’s always gentle, loving and supportive.

Whatever happens it’s always in your best interest!

4. Balancing

Do you know when to work hard, and then when to go home and spend time with friends and family relaxing? Do you know when to rest your body because you are in pain, or when your body can handle the physical challenge? D you know when to leave an unhealthy relationship or when to stay and work through something together to make the relationship stronger? Reiki can give you an insight into which aspect of your life might be off-balance and with this awareness you then have the ability to make rational and balanced decisions. You just know what to do.

Do you remember a time when you had a moment of utter clarity? You just knew what to do, and you didn’t question it. My guess is you did it regardless of the doubts that might have crept in. It’s my belief in these moments our hearts, minds and souls are  in perfect balance and it becomes very clear what action is needed in order to move forward.

From a place of balance everything can change.

5. Letting go

When we work with Reiki energies they will help us loosen any attachments to things or people that are holding us back. This can literally feel like a connecting string (or cord), which is continually tugging at you and preventing you from moving forward. The healing then feels, to me, a little like someone loosening a tight knot that has appeared in those cords. It might take a few sessions for the knot to loosen and untie itself before the string can start to dissolve, allowing you to let go completely. You can suddenly move more freely, no longer being held to your past experiences.

Let go of the past and create a different future!

6. Connection to universal energies

We are never truly alone, spirit is always guiding us. There are moments in the session where I feel it’s not just me and the practitioner (or the client) in the room. I sense the presence of something bigger, an additional and supportive hand contributing to the healing session.

This feeling can stay with me long after the session, and I know I’m not alone. Our guardian angels, spirit guides, universal energies – or whatever you feel most comfortable calling them – are always present. Because we are not always aware of them, it doesn’t mean they are not there looking out for us. But the more you notice and connect to them the more they will be willing to show you.

Be curious about what’s right in front of you and the answers become clearer!

7. Something more subtle

You can’t quite put your finger on what’s changed, but you know something has. It’s strange, sometimes I wonder after a session what the benefit has been. Sometimes it is days, if not weeks, before I realise that something has definitely changed in me. It’s something subtle, something I cannot quite put my finger on, and something I cannot quite put into words. It’s times like these that I get my journal out and try to write about what ‘feels’ different. It’s in these moments of expression that this learning and realisation embeds itself deeper within me. Clarity can be amazingly powerful!

Change is not always obvious and immediate – Be patient!

 

Of course, your experience might be completely different to what I’ve shared above. But whatever Reiki is trying to show us – be it healing, letting go, relaxing or something else – it’s sometimes so dramatically different from the state we usually operate from that it might feel uncomfortable. It’s especially in these moments of discomfort that we learn the most. And when we face it head on, rather than try to turn away from the discomfort, the most amazing changes can start to appear in our lives!

One important thing to remember is to stay open. Every session will be different to the last. Whatever I experience (or not), I trust it’s a perfect reflection of exactly what I need in that very moment. I will turn up to every session in a slightly different emotional, physical or spiritual state and I allow Reiki to heal me in the perfect way I need. Sometimes, that is the only intention that we need to turn up to a session with. Stay open to what shows itself – it is always relevant! Enjoy.

Are these some of the benefits you’ve noticed from receiving energy healing? Would you like to experience some of these and more? Then get in touch with me for a treatment – Natasha@mindbodysoulenergy.co.uk

Becoming friends with our emotions

Welcoming our emotions with open arms rather than a cold shoulder.

with-you-1306601Becoming friends with your emotions – what if you could forge a deeper understanding and relationship with your emotions to empower you and to work with you, rather than against you?

I was recently chatting to my dear friend about her yoga practice. She finally realised that her hip problem just wasn’t going away, and it was time to give it some well deserved attention. She came to the conclusion that during her yoga practice she really needed to start leaving her ego at the door, stop striving for that ‘perfect’ position and really start to listen to what her body was saying.

This left me with a very clear, and amusing, image of our dear friend, ego, being firmly told: ‘Sorry mate, you’ll just have to sit this one out and wait in reception for me until I’ve finished my class!’ He was definitely a bit sulky, arms crossed with a brooding face. He’d probably brood a while. Get the picture? But I also saw his mood wasn’t permanent. He’ll get over it! Slowly he’ll get used to being left there, especially as he learns that you always collect him on the way out.

The question struck me ‘what if I could really begin to make friends with all my emotions?’ Let’s take sadness, for example. How about, instead of shutting her out, I invited her in for a cuppa when she comes knocking. We could have a good old chat and reach a conclusion that satisfies us both. After all she appears in order to show me something. She has something to say and she wants me to listen and hear her out. Who am I to deny her? Isn’t that what we do when a friend is upset with us? We don’t  slam the door in their face. We invite them in, we chat, we discuss, we conclude and we move on. As most of us know, if we don’t resolve an argument we can fester on it. It ruins our day, our week, our year. Sometimes it even ruins our lives if we can’t let go of the pain and anger that we are holding on to.

How powerful then would it be if, instead, if we invited our emotions in and really listened to them? It’s my experience, when I ignore those emotions they get frustrated and they tend to just bang louder. They might disappear for a while but when they come back they bring their mates. Fear, anger and perhaps depression.

What emotion knocks the loudest for you? Anxiety, frustration, fear, sadness? How could you change your relationship with this emotion by listening to it for a while? Perhaps writing allows you connect to that emotion better. Ask it some questions… What does it want? What does it have to say to you? What could you do to quieten it? What are you not noticing?

Is this something that you’d like to explore further through coaching? Would you like to explore how you can create more emotional balance? Would you like to start living your life with more awareness and understanding of how your emotional wellbeing impacts your work, relationships, health and wellbeing? Then get in touch with me for a free consultation to see how we might work together – Natasha@mindbodysoulenergy.co.uk

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Fashion Fix Fundraiser raises nearly £500

The Fashion Fix fundraising event in Kensal Rise on Friday 9th March was a great success. Nearly £500 was raised on the night and the money will go towards a much needed maker-over of the community hall of St Marks Church, Kensal Rise.

I really enjoyed the evening and it was great to be part of this local community event. There was a great atmosphere throughout the night with stalls offering  makeovers and manicures, as well as a clothes swap and a bar.

Treatments were being giving inside the church which provided a beautiful, serene, candle lit atmosphere. I was giving 15 minute Reiki taster sessions throughout the evening and was delighted to see so many wanting a taster. Sorry to anyone that I didn’t manage to get to see for a session.

Thank you to everyone that contributed to raising so much money and making the evening such a great success.  I look forward in taking part next time.

If you attended the event I’m offering £10 off a full session if booked before the 30th April 2012. Don’t worry if you no longer have your voucher, just drop me an email or give me a call and I’ll happily book your session.

See you soon!

Come and join me for an evening of Fundraising in Kensal Rise

There will be a number of things going on through out the evening:

 – A local Fashion Editor, Torri Mundell, will be giving an overview of this seasons catwalk
 – Gorgeous Hair Salon in Kensal Rise
 – A clothes swaps (bring 3 items of clothes you don’t wear & swap them)
 – Stalls offering make-overs, reiki healing, reflexology & manicures
 – A bar serving beer and wine.
 

I, Natasha Harris, will be offering short Reiki Healing Taster Treatments on the night – Come along to try it out!!

The event has been run a couple of times over the last few years & it has been a great success. The hall is used for toddler groups, dance classes, OAP groups etc & is in need of maintenance works.

Please come along and support the Kensal Rise Community Centre. See you there!

Location: Community hall, next to St Marks Church on Bathurst Gardens, Kensal Rise, NW10. 
Date: Friday 9th March 2012
Time:
7.30pm
Cost: £5 entrance on the door
(All proceeds raised are donated to the community hall)

Chakras Explained

There are 7 major chakras (ch-ok-ra) in the body. They are situated along the spine and are referred to as wheels or gateways that allow the energy to flow both upward to the crown and downward to the feet.

Each chakra is associated with one of our senses (smell, taste, sight, touch, hearing,), an element (earth, water, fire, air and space) a colour (red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo, violet).

Each chakra can also be stimulated by a number of yoga poses (asanas); breathing exercises (pranayama); or sounds (mantras). There are number of other ways to stimulate, balance or calm the chakras such as meditations and the use of flower essenses which I sometimes also use in my sessions.

The 7 Chakras:

  1. Root chakra (Muladhara)
  2. Sacral chakra (Swadhisthana)
  3. Solar Plexus chakra (Manipura)
  4. Heart chakra (Anahata)
  5. Throat chakra (Vishuddha)
  6. Brow or Third Eye chakra (Ajna)
  7. Crown chakra (Sahasrara)

Bringing these 7 seven Chakras into balance can create a sense of clarity and well-being within us. I have seen how my clients have experienced amazing shifts and changes in their lives through using a combination of methods in my Reiki sessions.

Happiness is what it’s all about!

Happiness is what it’s all about!

Do you want to actively participate in your life and be HAPPY?

Rapidly, more focus is being made on what makes us happy rather than on everything that makes us unhappy and the things we need to fix. In looking at the negative we can only see what we don’t want or have. What about the positive stuff we do want or have?

What do you love to do? What are you passionate about? Are you doing these things? If not, isn’t it time to start?

See what Action for Happiness are doing and how you can get involved to spread the word!

Have a look at their website