Are you avoiding something at the moment? Are you fooling yourself about it and hoping the problem might go away? Perhaps it feels easier when you’re burying your head in the sand a little?
We are all guilty of ignoring things we don’t want to face and we can become really good at fooling ourselves. I know I have!
By seeing things as you want to see them it helps you to make sense of what’s going on.
But it’s not always helpful. In fact it rarely ever is! You don’t see things as they really are and you miss things that are right in front of you.
It usually festers and becomes a much bigger issue than if you’d addressed it to start with.
So why do we do it?!?
Wouldn’t you rather deal with things so you can move on?
I now try to look at things differently and be curious about what I might not be seeing, what I’m ignoring or what I’m fooling myself about. I don’t always get it right, but I’m better at spotting it before it becomes a problem in my life.
So, try my 4 simple tips to stop avoiding something so you can move on quicker:
- Time. Give yourself 10 minutes to explore what you’re fooling yourself about and perhaps you can see there’s an alternative way out and it’s not so scary after all 🙂
- Curiosity. What might you be ignoring? Start to become aware of what you are fooling yourself about.Acknowledge it for a moment and give it a bit of attention. How you feel about will start to change…
- Look at it with a fresh pair of eyes. What are you missing or haven’t you noticed before? Is there something else going on that might offer a solution.
- Let go. What assumptions are you making? Ask different questions so you gain more clarity about what might actually be happening.
Remember: Start small and build from there.
P.S. What one thing are you ignoring right now? By doing something different you will start to find a solution that works for you. Give it a go, what have you got to lose?
P.P.S I’d love to hear how you are getting on, or let me know if you’re struggling and need a little inspiration to make a start!
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