Are you busy planning what to buy your loved one for Valentine’s Day or are you avoiding it completely because it’s a bit of a stark reminder that you are currently single?
Regardless of your relationship status, tomorrow is an opportunity for you to nurture the most important relationship in your life right now.
The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself :).
It’s the relationship most of us neglect and forget about!
When you nurture this relationship first, all your other relationships will start to flourish. It’s a win-win!
Don’t worry; this isn’t about being selfish and unforgiving.
This is more about looking after yourself so you can share even more with others.
Notice I said share, not give! Most of us are busy giving to everyone else and then wonder why we have nothing left for ourselves.
Putting yourself first isn’t easy for many of us. We are (mostly) taught to put the needs of others before our own and putting ourselves first is considered selfish.
But, always putting others first rarely works.
We’re left running on empty, feeling resentful or completely exhausted.
So, what do you do instead? There are a few things you can do right now to put yourself first and nurture yourself. I know it might not be easy and for some of you and it might feel completely alien, but it’s worth giving it a go and see what changes.
- Self compassion and kindness – stop giving yourself such a hard time. Go easy on yourself for a bit and know that you’re trying your best. You can’t always get it right. Treat yourself to something you’ve been putting off for a while. It might be something small like an evening in, a hot bath with your book. Or it might be that holiday you deserve.
- Self trust and belief – this builds you confidence to know that you have everything you need to work through things right. Believe in yourself and that things are working out. Hindsight is a wonderful thing. Often we look back at previous challenges and recognise how, without them, we wouldn’t be where we are today. If you’re experiencing a challenge right now, ask yourself “How might this actually turn out for the best?” Re-write the script.
- Self awareness – this allows you to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. We can often see what others need to do but it’s difficult to see it for ourselves. When you look at things from a different perspective new information is revealed to you. Ask yourself “what else might be going on here that will help me to see things differently?”
This is how you start to take responsibility for yourself.
Your well-being and happiness are your responsibility, no one else’s.
That’s how you take back control of your life and what’s important to you.
You feel empowered to create the changes you want and find new ways of doing things that feel easier, more in flow and more fun.
Not only do you benefit but everyone around you benefits as well.
Happy Valentine’s Day lovely people
Enjoy nurturing the relationship with yourself
Remember: Start small and build from there.
P.S. What one thing can you do for yourself right now to nurture your relationship with yourself? By doing something different you will start to find a solution that works for you. Give it a go, what have you got to lose?
P.P.S Reply by email – I’d love to hear how you are getting on, or let me know if you’re struggling and need a little inspiration to make a start!? firstname.lastname@example.org